S1E3: The Importance of Meeting Up with Someone

Hello, World!

  • WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO MEET WITH SOMEONE EVERY WEEK?

1) Soundboard – having an experienced friend to share ideas, goals, fears, and insecurities. 

2) Accountability – being fully accountable to someone to reach your goals

3) Support – knowing that there is someone who deeply loves and cares for you

Accountability isn’t going to just show up on your doorstep.

Accountability will not suddenly appear out of nowhere and offer itself to you.

You have to work in order to put accountability in place; only then will you start to see the benefits that come as a result of being held accountable.

  • HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT CHOOSING THE RIGHT PERSON TO MEET WITH?

Here are a few things I would look for:

    1    Someone who is interested in growth.

    2    Someone who will be honest with you.

    3    Someone who will give you grace when you fail.

    4    Accountability is about consistency.

Accountability is about honoring your word and doing the things you say you’ll do.

Accountability is about commitment: being there for your partner 100% of the time and holding them accountable.

  • WHAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT THAT WEEK, SHOULD YOU STILL MEET AND HOW DO YOU KEEP THE MEET UPS WORTH WHILE AND PRODUCTIVE?

Structure it

5 minutes: hello & quick chat

15 minutes: person A shares:

    •    1 WIN or 1 thing they’ve accomplished since last meeting

    •    1 PROBLEM  or 1 thing they’re struggling with (for feedback)

    •    1 COMMITMENT or 1 thing they’ll accomplish before the next meeting

10 minutes: person B provides support, honest feedback, encouragement / discussion

15 minutes: person B shares:

    •    1 WIN or 1 thing they’ve accomplished since last meeting

    •    1 PROBLEM  or 1 thing they’re struggling with (for feedback)

    •    1 COMMITMENT or 1 thing they’ll accomplish before the next meeting

10 minutes: person A provides prayer, support, honest feedback, encouragement/discussion

5 minutes: re-state your commitments.

  • DO PERSONAL MEET-UPS MATTER MORE THAN VIA INTERNET, SAY FACETIME OR SKYPE?

Not really if both of you are ok with the digital platform. 

Yet, I will say that nothing beats meeting with someone face to face. 

Although I have coaches and mentors that speak to me over the phone every week or FaceTime with me, I know that I still need one person to be present. 

I take the meeting up seriously. I already have it blocked off on my calendar – schedule it to make it real – it never changes. That's my suggestion to you. Schedule it. 

Having it this way saves me and my accountability partner time and frustration; we know when our time to meet is, and we’re both committed to being all-in 100% of the time.