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Before I ever dated my wife, we spent about 5 years being friends. We were such good friends to each other that we would even give one another relationship advice (like we knew any better) to help when the other was having issues.

One day, I began to notice these crazy feelings I had. Though I loved her dearly, I began to notice that I would miss her more, think of her more, and want to give her more. I was falling in love.

Not Everything is Clear

Before I ever do anything, my meticulous nature kicks in and I usually seek answers to questions I don't even have. Daunting? Yes. And I have to live with myself! 

Like for example, before I got engaged I went on an investigative endeavor to find out what makes a marriage successful. I read every article I could on courting and getting financially set for marriage, I read a ton of books on relationships for the life-long commitment I was undertaking, and I must have asked (interviewed) dozens of married couples to find out their secrets for success. Even my prayers were beginning to sound so redundant because I kept asking for the same thing: "Lord, I don't want to fail at marriage. Please help." 

How to Win Arguments like a Loser

How to Win Arguments like a Loser

Why are you yelling?

I've been married for a whopping 6 months and 22 days but, who's counting? In all seriousness though it's been an amazing experience because I've come to learn so much from just living with another person whom I love very much. The daily interaction with the same person could sometimes lead to friction and  arguing. 

Maura, my wife, calls these little disagreements "peanut butter and jelly fights". This means that sometimes we argue over little things, but because of stubbornness or pride, we let it escalate. Now, we haven't always been saints. Being human means that you inevitably come to disagreements with people in your family, circle of friends, and team. How you handle these moments will define what kind of relationships you have.