We're all self-made people but only the successful ones take credit for it. You'll always hear people distinguish themselves as self-made millionaires, or self-taught musical artists.
You've never heard someone refer to themselves as a self-made broke person. Have you? I'm willing to bet you haven't.
Why is that? Because no one likes to take responsibility for the lame failures and unfulfilled life. No one wants to take credit for putting themselves in a position where "the struggle is real" is more than just a saying.
I realize now that I’m 30 that I could have saved myself so much grief if I had only listened closely. I could have taken all the loving advice of a parent and spared myself some troubles. I could have taken all the wise guidance from my teachers and fast-tracked my success. I could have taken all the well-intentioned rebukes of a pastor and avoided the pain of committing mistakes. I could have taken the whole truth of the Bible and be at a completely different place now.
Now, experienced and older, I am exactly where I need to be.
Ideally where I’d like to be?
Yet, I am exactly where I need to be.
Everything that I needed for success, God graciously allowed me to encounter through out my years. And even my mistakes, my bone-headed, stupid, idiotic mistakes are producing today invaluable knowledge so that I can help others.
I could sit here and have a pity party, regretting this and that but that’s not who I want to be. Therefore I choose not to be a victim of circumstance or chance, but rather, I have vowed to believe that I can live life knowing that I can be victorious at everything that I do.
"We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.”George Bernard Shaw
What does that mean? It means that taking responsibility for my own future is wisdom in action. Thinking and regretting my past is foolish. Look ahead because if you don’t you’ll crash and burn.
You need to own up to it. Whatever “it” is, you need to take responsibility for “it”.
Didn’t finish school? Own up to it. Don’t blame it on it wasn’t the right time.
Didn’t start school? Own up to it. Don’t blame it on your parents or your children.
What ever your life goals were and still are can be still achieved if you stop looking at what could have been and focus on what could be.
When you blame circumstances you are conditioning yourself to be a helpless victim. When you take responsibility of your current state, you can now take control of what you’ll do next.
“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.” - Theodore Roosevelt
You and only you can accept responsibilty. My wife isn’t responsible for my actions. Neither are my friends. What I do solely depends on me, my beliefs, my thinking. I am ultimately responsible for how I respond when I get into trouble and how I get out of that trouble.
You’ll never achieve anything if you don’t take ownership of your life. Too many people settle because it is the easy thing to do. So they live comfortably in a state of redundancy, the level of average, where nothing dreams die, and success is traded for mediocre living.
"The price of greatness is responsibility."Winston Churchill
You want to be great? Take responsibility.
If I want to grow my business by 100% this year, I need to take the time and put in the work to grow it that much. I need to invest in myself and this business to hit that goal. I cannot blame anyone for not achieving what I set out to do. At then end of the year, only the man in the mirror is responsible for the results I get.
Believe me, I wouldn’t want to end the year thinking about how this year could have been better. No! The time to think about how this year could be better is RIGHT NOW! It’s called planning, brainstorming, visioning, and sowing. Those things will infuse me with the mindset that it takes to achieve what I need to achieve. It’ll show me what I need to work on and what areas I need to grow in.
"You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think.” Marianne Williamson
One of mentors told me that my beliefs would determine my behaviors. This is so true. It applies to theology, health, raising children, finances, everything.
That means that if I believe I am ultimately responsible for my success than I’ll demand more of myself if I really want to succeed. If I don’t, I’ll blame my failures on everyone and everything.
If you believe you are responsible for your success, you’ll hustle hard every single day until success. You’ll grind out the work it takes to achieve your dreams no matter how difficult it can be. You’ll follow through on every plan in spite of the temptation to quit on yourself because it’s too hard. You’ll invest in books and actually read them and more importantly, apply the wisdom from those books into your life. You’ll pay whatever it takes to receive guidance and knowledge because you will reap what you sow. You’ll keep convincing yourself that your dream-come-true moment is right around the corner no matter how long it takes.
Don't be a cheapskate. Pay the price. It will be worth it!
The purpose you were born with is waiting to be manifested. It brings glory to God when you live intentionally, using all the gifts He gave you. Don’t waste your life thinking of what could have been. Do what is necessary today.
That starts with taking responsibility.