For the longest time I have been scheming and plotting to launch a YouTube channel and a podcast, focused on inspiring and teaching others. Yet, it has stalled for one big reason: Fear.
At first, I convinced myself that until I had the right gear I should not record anything. That was until my friends and family blessed me with the basic essentials. Then I thought to myself, "I don't even have tech knowledge" Do you ever get those nagging thoughts in your head? You find yourself making excuse after excuse, "I'm not tech Savvy.. my camera isn't the greatest quality..I hardly get any support.." despite all the self imposed fears and negative thoughts against me, I was surprised to learn that I actually have people around me that are looking for work in all these areas I have felt uneasy about. With that network of friends in mind, I began to write as much content as I could. Yep, still no launch has occurred.
Money and time have not been an issue. God has blessed me with both. My problem has always been making excuses for myself for the simple fact that I am scared.
I was telling my mentor the other day how much I hate the sound of my voice on audio recordings and how I don't like the way I look on video, but she knew exactly what hid underneath that stupid excuse. She could read right through me. I have been afraid of doing things because I think I will fail or because I think I am not good enough.
I know that I am not alone with this struggle. I think in part that's why she could decipher what has held me back.
We are offered so many opportunities in this life to accomplish feats and add value to those around us but we forfeit those opportunities because we are afraid of the "what if's".
Anytime that I imagined myself doing a video I would think, "who is going to take me seriously?" All of the hypothetical scenarios that in which I visualized myself recording, whether on video or audio, were tragic. Either I was boring or mumbling through my speech. Underneath that lays a strong viewpoint of myself: I have been self-sabotging my dreams.
No one needed to crush my enthusiasm. I have already been doing it on my own.
How many times have you wanted to try that one aspiration only to find your fears talking you out of it? Maybe it has been losing weight and then you remember that you are not that athletic so therefore you shouldn't even attempt it. Or maybe it has been starting your own business and you convinced yourself that you don't have what it takes to compete in the marketplace. Or maybe it has been something bigger, like asking for forgiveness. We can go on and on with examples but I'm sure you get the point.
What is it that you want to start doing that you have stalled on?
Realize this: that when you forgo the work that it takes to build your dream then you forgo who you really are. There is no joy in that.
I have known so many people who are working jobs they hate because they are afraid to exercise their gifts or because they are afraid to pursue their dreams. They are working to help build somebody else's success.
I never want to be that person who dreads Mondays or Tuesdays or the rest of the days in the week because I hate what I do. That's not the life any of us are meant for. Work is a means to an end and I believe that we all need to work. Yet, I also believe that you should not dread any of the days in your life. We are blessed to live, so you and I need to make the most of it.
Begin your thought process by recognizing what it is that is fueling your fears. Is it because you don't know who you are? Is it a lack of confidence? A fear of failure? A fear of success? The answer will help you identify the shackles that hold you down.
For me, it is fear of failure. I have continually masked it by telling people that I am a perfectionist. That is a lie. If you are waiting for everything to be perfect in your life to begin to live your dreams then you will be sitting in the waiting room of life until time is up for you.
Les Brown says that “the graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.”
I don't want that for you. I don't want that for me. We cannot be the type of people who take unfulfilled dreams to the grave. So have to be determined to beat our fears regardless of our current circumstances.
Beating our fears makes us feel good about ourselves because it teaches us who we really are. We begin to realize that there is more in us than we thought. My fear of failure had weighed me down for years. Now, it only serves to remind me that I am about to do something worthwhile. It tells me that I am about to be stretched. It confirms that there is value in what I am about to do.
And I feel that right now as I write these words. My heart pounds because of the commitment I am making. My hope is that your heart is pounding too because you are going to commit to doing what you need to do.
So by the end of June you shall witness the launch of a YouTube channel and a podcast. No need to make any more excuses. I am now accountable to all of you who are reading this and have subscribed. It is my delight to commit with the fear challenging me because I know that I will come through this because I was made for this.
I am going to beat my fear by:
1) Trusting God. I can't control everything and that fact gives me freedom. I can't control my circumstances or the unforeseen events that happen in my life. I can only only control my attitude and my mindset. So I choose to trust Him. Also, if He gave me abilities, gifts, dreams and opportunities to carry them out, then that means He entrusted me with them. I know that He did not make a mistake when He was passing out qualities.
2) I will surround myself with better people. I love my mentors because they challenge me with the way the carry themselves. I learn so much just by being around them. This is called modeling. They exemplify the qualities I need to succeed and I can draw from that to apply it in my own life.
3) I will continue to invest in myself. You reap what you sow. Therefore, you should be very careful as to what you put into your mind. If you are feeding yourself excuses fueled by fear than you will become afraid of what may be. Get some knowledge and it will increase your courage and challenge your faith.
4) I will simply do. I won't stall any longer. The moments won't always be ideal but I have to do what I need to do. And with every time that I do, I know I will get better. And so will you.
Let me know how you plan to beat fear. And if you know someone who needs to stop making excuses and beat fear, share this with them. I am sure they will appreciate you for doing so.